Saturday, December 09, 2006

Never Complain about life

In a class room we can find people of differnent abilities .some wud be a toppers,some average performers and some weak students.In the same way even in the gods creations there will be people of different abilities ,all we have to do is accept them.

I just want to describe u what happened last sunday.The before sunday i went to a blind youth hostel in New Delhi by taking some sweets.There i got acquinted with a visually challenged person Mr Amit Kumar a 31 year from bihar doing his PHD in English and working as a teacher in a private school.After our first meeting we took each other numbers.after 4 days i called him once again.The call which he is least expecting bcoz he says that people generally take his number for formality sake.Actually he wants some help which requires some knowledge in english for buying a guide for a competetive exams(he already cleared an exam(prelims) for Jr lecturer post of Delhi Govt and so wants to clear mains.he just wants persons to c the content weather it is matching with the syllabus.So last sunday i went to meet him.As that day it is world disabled day,he went to perform a show.after 2 hours of my arrival he came and i had taken lunch along with him.
we disscused many issues and i asked many questions.he was a matured person and in each sentance i saw lot of life's philosophy that he learned through struggle and hardships.A topper upto 12 th standard had to face problem after going to college.where it was difficult to get books in braile and so has to depend upon a reader who wud record the cassettes and give to him.At the same time the schorship that he is getting upto then got stopped and so he has to take up some part time job(taking tutions for children) to meet his financial needs.this effected his education .after few years he had cleared a test for post graduation in english but could not join bcoz of financial constraints.He worked for few years and then joined for pg program and now continuing his phd.he is an ambitious person who wants to be independent and a firm believer in destination.
these r the few things he said
"I never complain abt anything and i accept what i got and i believe that i wud get what iam destined to get but i wud not stop my struggle and sit ideally doubting my abilities.i wud move ahead and face all the hardships that come my way bcoz they wud make me much more stronger"

later he took his phone book and asked me read a number that he wants to call,i said give the phone to me i wud type the numbers but he refused to give his phone saying that "let me do my things by myself,i dont want to depend on others for the things that i can do".

After that we went for buying the book,he got habituated of getting in and getting out of running busses bcoz no bus stops exactly in the bus stops and no bus waits till all the passengers gets in.Looking at which i got scared and asked him."R u not risking u r life ?"This is what he said then "Yes it can be a risk but this risk i had to take to move forward in life"

These r the few reactions that i saw from the general public while i spend time with him

1.some people tried to show too much sympathy and tried to help him out in his daily activities etc .which he used to refuse .

2. There r some people who saw him as an untouchable

3. There r even some people who laughed at him showing their ugly teeth.

4. The good thing that i had seen is.while iam in their institution.i saw people cmg their bringing something or other that wud help them.More over that institution is run by the donations given by the donars itself.Hats off to Delhites.

After spending some time with him i came to realize that they r not disabled persons.They r more challenged persons.They do not require our Sympathy nor they expect us to bear their complete burden.All they reqire is a supporting hand and an understanding heart,so that they can stand on their feet and live an independent life.Currently my friend stays in a room near to his school all alone,he is seriously preparing for exam where he has to face compitetion from sighted people,he wants to get an government job which can give him security .so that he can get married and settle down.

so never call anybody as a disabled person. call them just as challenged person
Never complain about life just move forward positively

Thanks and Regards
Maddy (Maddi Rama Surya Viswanath)

Article that i send to friends on World Aids Day

As part of my Aware ness camphaign i had wrote some article on Aids and send it all my friends.iam posting that article once again here.

Today it is World Aids Day. Todays Message is Be Aware of Aids,have discussions about Aids,Do not discriminate people who are suffering from aids.As these people are already fighting with the disease let them not fight with the society too.Accept them and love them bcoz it is the only relief that they wud get from the pain they are suffering. Aids spreads mainly by 3 ways 1.unsafe sex 2.blood transfusion or improper needle use(of thats aids patient's) 3.Aids patient giving birth to child Always be careful and cautious bcoz "Prevention is better than Cure".Awareness is the only weapon through which we can start our battle againt Aids.Come join me in this fight against Aids to eradicate Aids from this world .
Thanks and Regards
Maddy (Maddi Rama Surya Viswanath)

Thursday, November 23, 2006

The Quotation that changed my life

Today i would share an instance which had great influence in my life.After my graduation there was a stage in my life where i had been a complete failure,The risk that i had taken did not gave me desired results,all my efforts turned out to be futile.Frustration started ,worry abt the future started,started comparing myself with others who r successfull.inferiority started creaping into my mind.when all the negatives started happening in my life ,i started cursing God saying he is very unkind towards me.With all the failures one after another i lost my self esteem i lost respect that i give to myself.I felt that iam fit for nothing,there is no use me being alive.That was my pessimistic mindset at that time.
But one day everything changed .that day i went to library and took a kids book called "Wisdom" .that book consists of quotations for kids .in that one quotation i read more than 20 times and here is that quotation: "I always used to feel bad about my torn shoes until i saw someone without legs" .This is a simple one line quotation.but if we think deep there would be lot of information for all of those who would be subjected to selfpity.In my next blog i would share how much influence that single line had in my thinking process and subsequently in my life...

Monday, October 30, 2006

Be Captalist at mind but Communist at heart

Yesterday i donated blood at Indian RedCross society New Delhi.I did this becoz one of our family dream of having a own house is fulfilled recently.This is a good thing happened to us. so i did one good thing to the society.we generally pray god for good things to happen to us(fulfilling our dreams) but once it happens we forget god by saying thanks to him .instead we have to reciprocate by doing something good to the society.thats how we can really thank god.There are many occassions when we feel good things are happening to us like getting a good job,getting a promotion,recovering soon from the ill health,buying something that is long cherished and so on(for which many of us wait eagarly) but once we got that we celebrate it with our friends by giving a party .if u really feel that u r happy with what u got .u should spend atleast 1/10 th of the money that u spend on parties for the people whom you never met and from whom you can expect nothing in return but who are desperately in need of help.In this captalist world we are first bothored about us .thats true.but atleast second position should be given to the society.Even after 59 years of independance India has 30 crore of its population is Below poverty line earning less than 1 dollar per day.We should not expect government alone should take the reponsibility but instead every citizen should share the responsibility.its not the charity we are doing but its duty.whatever small help u can do .you have to do .It may not change the entire society but it can change some lives.Iam an ordinary person of this country and iam able to do all these things and so i others too can do all these things.Even always we think as captalist abt our career ,abt our growth ,abt our monetory and physical benifits and so on.we should sometimes think as a communist abt the society.

Monday, October 23, 2006

My Special Diwali

This Diwali is very special in my life.Till date i celebrated diwali either with my family or friends but this year i celebrated Diwali with some one who are very special.This diwali i(along with my friend) went to a church which is running a home for both phically and mentally challenged children .we took the permission from the sister of the church and took some crakers and some sweets to the children.We reached the place at 7.00 pm at that time all the surrounding places were full of lights except this chruch was in dark and all the children were inside the church.First we placed all candles around the churh and made the place clourful.Then children came out of the church ,by just seeing the lights itself children were exited,when we started burning crackers there were no bounds to their happiness.they just danced clapped and enjoyed a lot that event.After that we distributd sweets and choclates.As we are abt to leave the place all the children hugged us and asked us not to leave the place.At that instance i felt that pure love from those children.Even the father and sisters of the church appreciated our work because they saw children enjoying the event to a great extent.This may be memorable day to those children,at the sametime it became a very special day in my life

Wednesday, October 18, 2006

GandhiGiri in Practice

by that small everdy day example i want to show how we can bring change with out any doing anything extra but just doing what is right.Here i followed two gandhian principles
1. Admitting my mistake sincerely
2. Giving respect to my cook .(Apun se chote admi ke saath Apun ka behaviour acha hona chahiye "Lage Raho..."dialog)
Generally i saw people changing their behaviour depending on the person they are dealing with ,They show too much obidience for people higher than them and behave too rudely with the people who are below him(below can be economically,socially,professionally etc).this is not a good practice.Gandhi says to give same respect to the person who do menial jobs as that respect u give to the men in power.
i started following this principle long back when i am in my college
i used to treat my juniors equally as i treat my seniors and batchmets.Now at office also i behave equally well with the freshers and juniors ie with compassion and understandingly.
In the present scenario gandhigiri is not only behaving well with the persons who tries to do bad to u or behaves rude to u but also doing good to others who do nothing to u,who are nothing to u ,with whom u can expect nothing in return,this way of doing good is called as UnConditional Love,I would write in detail abt this topic in my next posting...............

Gandhigiri Continued

Gandhigiri Continues................
That day when i quit the place quitely , my friend who sat beside me(while taking food) came to me and said that i had acted cowardly by being silient,he said that the cook is not expected to behave that way.Then i replied that i should also not behave in the way cook behaved. i know that my silence caused him much hurt,then that could have caused when i uttered a word against him.Its not that rude behaviour should be met with rude behaviour everytime. Many times our good Behaviour serves our purpose than our rude behaviour. At last i could bring change in behaviour.........
change in whom???????????????????????
my cook?
no not at all
its change in my fellow hostlers.
Everybody came to know what happened and all started thinking abt my behaviour
From then all did what cook is expected us to do.
After few days cook apolozised for his behavoiur
and happy that everyone is sharing his work burden

Thursday, October 12, 2006

For Accepting u r Mistake u Require Courage

it took lot of time for posting my second message over this blog.that is because i forgot my password of my blog.if some one asks what is my weakness then i would say forgotfulness is one of my weakness bcoz i forgot simple and silly things.Today i want to share a thing that happened recently and how gandhigiri helped me.I stay in a hostel in Gurgaon there after dinner we leave our plates and move away from the place and the boy would take that plates.For some days boy went to his home town and the cook himself had to take our plates.We people (hostelers) hadnt taken notice of the fact,he requested some of the hostelrs to take away their plates after dinner(which i came to know later).but nobody listened.All of a sudden when iam leaving the place without taking my plate he just shouted on me. i got too much angry.felt like bombarding the cook,but just before opening my mouth i started thinking from his side.felt like iam wrong still there is lot of anger inside.then i justed asumed what if my boss orders me ?what i would do??then i just took my plate and kept it near wash basin without uttering even a single word.
Gandhigiri continues..................................

Wednesday, September 20, 2006

Lageraho Gandhigiri

Hi friends,
6 months back i saw Rang De Basanti really got facinated by the theme of the story and enjoyed the movie a lot.Then i thought that it would have been better for india,if we had got independence through those radical freedom fighters ,whose sacrifices were rarely recognized by many indians.But now after seeing Munnabhai 2 .I once again i remembered the gandhi's life ("My Experiments with Truth" a book abt gandhi's life,which i read long back).After reading the book we learn one thing i.e "Ordinary people can do extraordinary things".He believed in certain principles and lived with them till his death.I do not say that the path then followed by the Rebel Freedom fighters is wrong,bcoz then they r fighting with outsiders.Now there r no outsiders in this country,so the same path should not be followed now.To fight with our own people ,if we use force then it becomes gundagiri which is just like removing the pillars of our house by ourself,which is not advisable now.So now we as a youth of this country can vow to inculcate certain gandhian priciples in our life
Ab Is Desh Mein Gundagiri Nahi Chalega Bus Gandhigiri